Now that you know your perceived stress score, you might be wanting to improve your stress tolerance. The good news is you CAN do it. Below are some ways to shift your mindset and better manage stress so you perceive everything as less stressful.
1. Become aware of your emotions
Physical symptoms often show with your emotions such as: clenched jaw, twitch, sweating, stomach in knots. Identify these signs and realize you need to take 3 deep breaths. Afterwards, jot down what it was that made you so emotional.
These emotions are your signs of stress. The thing that made you so emotional is your agents of stress.
2. Self reflect and ask questions
Take time to think through and thoroughly answer the following questions.
1. What part of the situation was causing stress?
2. Is my self talk really true?
3. Ask others who were involved to get their perception of the event and compare that to your self talk answer.
4. What could I do differently in the future to not react so emotionally?
3. Recognize the inner critic
We all have self talk that tells us we are not good enough, don’t belong or are an imposter. That coupled with the fact that we all inflate how much attention others actually pay to us. When you think your and imposter and everyone is watching you stress mounts.
The truth!
Realize that other people are more concerned about themselves than you. Also, everyone feels imposter syndrome, just like you.
Flip the script on your inner critic and think about:
What you did that was good enough
Other people are tuned into the WIIFM (What’s In It For Me) radio station and are not worried about you
4. Constant learning builds self confidence
As you do this exercise to reflect and grow your going to get better at stress management. That will no doubt improve your stress tolerance.
The other affect most don’t realize will happen at the same time is you will grow your self confidence. The more you learn about yourself the more you put your conscious mind in control. The decreases in stress and growth in confidence will grow and start to snowball over time.
A great way to track this is to take the PSS score again each month. Keep a log of your scores over several months and see how they improve. Before you know it you will have increased your stress tolerance!